Finding a Secret Keeper on a Gay Chat Line
If you have been looking for a man to tell your secrets to, a gay chat line is a great place to find one. Because you are on a phone, there is a hint of anonymity, but because you can keep calling back, you can build a strong rapport with him. Having someone you can count on at the other end of the line means everything, and even if the relationship you have is strictly on the phone, it can still help you in real life. So how can you find a secret keeper? Take the following advice.
Drop the Tough Guy Act
The first thing you need to do is to drop the walls that you have probably built to keep people at arm’s length in order to keep yourself “safe.” While you might think that helps in the short term, if you are acting like a tough guy, it will be very difficult to let people in. By dropping the walls and being willing to be a bit vulnerable, you will be able to get close to someone on a chat line.
Be Who You Really Are
When you meet a gay man on a phone date, don’t be afraid to be who you really are. There is no reason to pretend and be someone you are not, because if you don’t hit it off with that person you can just move on. And if you do decide to be wholly yourself, you are more likely to build a relationship that is conducive to sharing your secrets.
Open Up The Communication
If you want to find someone that will share your life and your secrets, then you have to be willing to open yourself up to a bit of vulnerability. If you are able to share your real self, you are more likely to get that same gift in return. And if someone at the other end of the phone line feels safe and comfortable with you, they are more likely to tear down their own walls and let you in. It is all about being open and sharing your story. The more you are willing and able to do that, the more you will be able to get close to someone.
Look for the Good
If you want to find a confidant to share your secrets (or your life) with, then you need to be willing to look for the good in people. No one is perfect, but everyone has a lot of great qualities. If you focus on the negative, however, you might miss out on a whole lot of people who might have been good for you. Try to see the beauty in each person and situation and focus on the positive.
At the end of the day, to have a friend you have to be a friend. If you are open and positive and share who you are with people, you will be more likely to find a secret keeper on a chat line. And if you gel in real life, who knows what other great things might happen!